I don’t know is it me being naive or the world has become so miserable.
Things obviously don’t look like what it is.
Especially the PEOPLE.
It’s sad to know that some do side talking.
For once, I hope they can at least be sincere to themselves. For once.
Still, I hope that there is still hope for better.
I hope that I can still hold my faith upon people.
They are good people, just they don’t find the good in themselves yet.
May some time, the good will comes.
Harapan adalah mimpi yang berjalan.
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let me get this straight, do you mean back-talking when u said side talking?
if so, are you sure only some of us do side talking?
i think all of us do.. perhaps the reasons behind it that differ..
bt i dunno… *shrugs
My apology. Do we call them back-talking even they do that in front of you?
They actually seems to agree or didn’t argue in any way, but say differently at side.
I don’t know if there is any good reason to back/side talk, but if there is, I feel glad.
Yet still, I only comes across people with bad side/back talking.
And I still hope that they at least be sincere to themselves, either speak it out loud or just keep it to them.
umm.
if they do it in fronna you, i wont call that back/side talking. that would be either cynical, sarcastic, or being straight forward (if they tell it directly to you)…
well to make this easier, i DO back talk my friends. for both reason, good and bad. (im not shy to admit that) but just so you know, there is good back talking (or talking about someone and that person didnt know that you talked about them). for ie, you are concerned about some ppl behaviour, or you like their partner/husband/bf/gf/wife, or you some ppl deserve better than other… (or you call this discussion??)
there are alot of (good) reasons.. bt whatever the reason being, it would be either inappropriate to talked directly to the person.. or it’s something, the person doesnt need to know about…
and about the bad back-talk.. i dont think i need to explain it you ;p but just for the benefit of the doubt.. i Only do it coz, they messed with me, otherwise. i simply Will Not :)
bt i am surprised, you come to this “trait” only now… or you choose to ignore it before??
p.s. pardon me for the long comment :-S
back talking or side talking
as human, i do that.
first reason is that i cannot say it aloud “the things” of that person.
this is because i tend to express my satisfaction differently.
some of the people can express their feeling out loud and some of them only can express it to others secrectly.
You cannot change others attitude, but you can change your perception towards this kind of people( take it as a challenge)……
They do it in front of, but they don’t do it directly.
Well as for me, I DON’T call that discussion. It will never be!
Or is it what people always call gossip? That is just bad. REAL BAD.
Changing self is good, but change to something that I value as bad is a no.
Still, for what ever reason, please just keep it to self. I beg you.
p.s. Not that I come to this trait now, just that I’m still holding my faith after a very long time (It’s a very long time I didn’t encounter this trait). But then it happen again. So is it just me who is wrong to have such believe (that people should not back/side talking)? I wonder.
hahah you can never be wrong when you said that you have faith.. or something like that.. coz i do think, we should think good about others :)
it’s ok :)
my Mom said, “Jika orang buat jahat dekat kita, jangan balas dgn kejahatan.” And i swear to God, i do that, i hold on to that. (and that’s why some ppl find me gullible :p)
but guess what? Allah is the most Fair and Justice. Leave it to Him and i think we’ll be OK :)
front-talking; a good but shameful way to said something. As for me it should always be either straight forward or never said the word at all! If you are trying to tell someone something but choose to talk to the other person WITH hope the person you talking about ear dropping your “feeling expression” – shame on you. If you do not sure whether what your are talking are good then save it for yourself. Don’t do group talk and hope everything passed through your mouth unnoticeable.
And Abrak, it is okay to have that faith and knowing someone is not on your back, it is a way of a person can be better and that mean rooommmmmsssss of improvement is there. Keep it up. Don’t let the bad-mouthing turns into ignorance as you will hate the life of being separated from others.
Actually, they “sindir” or cynical say something about you( but not do it directly). maybe you should go to that person and say “Ko ada problem ngan aku ke” and then if they do not admit it (it show that they are hypocrite). since they are so brave enough to “perli” in front of you so maybe they can give some reasons why they do that……..
wawa, congrat abrak
i kept reading your blog. interesting topic……
rsyazwani, Don; Exactly!
saf, “Ko ada problem ngan aku ke” bunyinya seperti mencurah minyak ke atas api. I chose to silent.
Somehow, I feel relieved. There is still hope. HOPE. FAITH.